Wednesday, 6 January 2016

Awake at the Wheel

For those of you who haven't heard the question, "who's driving your bus?" before, it comes from a 2003 book by Canadian researcher, James Henman. James suggested that often we are not the ones in the driving seat of our own lives, but are simply passengers, allowing our programmes - whether they benefit us or not - to do the driving.

We are often mentally unconscious at the wheel. James suggests his book is a tool for you to "sit across from him as if you were actually in a Therapeutic Coaching session", and explore which of your internal programmes is really driving your emotions through your most congested internal traffic.

When we get to places that we are stuck, or seem to repeat and repeat the same behaviours, it is probably our own programmes, our mental models, or our lack of ability to clearly see who is actually doing the driving, which is holding us back from making conscious and positive change in our lives. Using deep reflection, James helps us through making change, based on tools developed through his CAIR (Changing Attitudes in Recovery) psychology practice.

As a nice reminder of who should be driving our bus, I read a post from Dr. Wayne W. Dyer late last year which said "Everything is based on the choices you make. It's not your parents, your past relationships, your job, the economy, the weather, an argument, or your age that is to blame. You, and only you, are responsible for every choice you make. Full stop." (punctuation terms and diacriticals amended for Kiwi English - original version in the image above).

A suitable quote for the start of a new year!



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